October 10, 2012

An Untold Love Story..

There is a King with his trademark deep baritone voice, the tall, brooding persona, and intense eyes ,there is a queen who is truly an enigma; a romance with beauty, and their untold love story. All the stories in this world, they say, have already been told. Except this one, the 'love story' of an 'ugly duckling turned princess,' and the 'angry man destined to be emperor,' the emperor of Bollywood.
Call it a rumor or a true story but the alleged affair between the legendary actor Amitabh Bachchan and the evergreen beauty Rekha is still a mystery. Their affair was the talk of the town then but the details of it are still a secret for most of us. While Rekha has admitted in several interviews that Amitabh Bachchan is the only man she has ever loved, the legendary actor has chosen kept silent about it. The silence that Big B has built over his alleged 'love affair' with Rekha is perhaps what makes their relationship so private that go beyond the ordinary subject of Bollywood rags, where cheapness takes over in the name of romance. X loves Y who loved A, who was having an affair with C; Y dumps X to live with C while X hooks up with A. Isn't that Bollywood romance today? Some romances are meant to be so: Powerfully passionate and wrapped in quietness. Either the two, or both of them, struck by that undefined feeling of love, must bear the cross. It is painful, enduring and absolutely nerve-wracking.
For the both, who once ruled Bollywood, life hasn't been easy. Big B survived accidents, suffered in politics, lost his friends, was almost bankrupt, and then returned with the payback like the angry young man who he once portrayed on screen. Only, in real life, he was anything but young. Today, he is more incisive with the media, bites them down with sharp tweets and blogs, and over the past years, has built a detached decency that few would want to ruffle.
Rekha too had her share of tragedies. For the south Indian girl who was called the 'ugly duckling' when she was first discovering her turf in Mumbai, life offered some of the unkindest cuts. The daughter of Gemini Ganesan came out of her many crises, much like Big B, through her own persistence. She started acting very early, at the age of Thirteen. She did not even know Hindi at that time. But she was a quick learner and learnt Hindi in three months and dancing in one month.In 1970, Her first film Sawan Bhadon done with Navin Nischol was released. Who would once have thought Rekha would transform into the princess, a beauty that even today, in an age that is past the prime, is almost dreamlike? Apparently, she took recourse in yoga, dieted and returned to thump her nose at her Bollywood detractors as a swashbuckling heroine, and delivering a string of hits. Several of these were with Amitabh Bachchan, and people attributed much credit for Rekha's transformation to the influence of Big B. True or not, we will never know.
There are love affairs, of course, where the man gives his heart and soul, even in a losing game, to bring out the best in his lady love. There is that element of so-called sacrifice, where giving all is all that matters, not even when the love is unreturned. We will never know if there was an element of unrequited love in the affair. We will never know if either of the two was being opportunistic. After all, it is Bollywood. One's ladder is another's snake. In a recent revelation, filmmaker Yash Chopra said that for the hit Silsila he had earlier chosen to cast Smita Patil and Parveen Babi alongside Amitabh Bachchan instead of Jaya Bachchan and Rekha. "I had signed both Smita Patil and Parveen Babi and both of them were to start shooting. Smita was to do the role played by Jaya Bachchan and Parveen that of Rekha. I went to meet Amitji and spoke to him about the film," Mr Chopra said. "It was Amitji who asked me if I was happy... content with the casting (Smita Patil, Parveen Babi and Amitabh Bachchan) and do I feel it is the ideal casting. I told him I wanted to cast him, Jayaji and Rekha. He took a long pause and told me that he was fine with the decision but asked me to convince the two actresses," he said. The later part was history. The game ended with 'Silsila,' a casting coup for Yash Chopra, with Big B, Jaya Bhadhuri (Bachchan) and Rekha, almost in a recreation of their real life status. Was there a romance, indeed? If yes, what killed it? Perhaps it was the sanctity of marriage. Or the family name. Or that one of the two simply didn't return the affection. Or that they were two practical people who refused to hurt the others involved. Or the two Librans (Rekha - born Oct. 10; Big B - Oct 11) are too true to their zodiac signs - full of love and affection but indecisive, willing to bear the brunt of pain in silence but never to rock a boat.
Or perhaps it was just an affair that never was.
Maybe it will remain secret as it is now.
Some stories are better to leave untold.

Let it be..

It s almost everyday’s issue. I always say my daughter to get her school bag done at night but as usual she forgot everyday and morning I fail to get at least one thing, may be it is her diary or her book. Later I find it from other place. This is what I really don’t like in her. I always tell her to keep her things in proper place. When things happen like that I get worry and anxious and obviously makes my mood upset. My husband has been telling me for a while to calm down, to not get stressed about little things, to learn to take things as they are and not look for perfection in everybody and everything.  Needless to say I don’t give a positive response on that. And it continues.  But sometimes I think if I counter his observations and I let it be, what will happen. The dinner will not be on time, the daughter will not finish her schoolwork (or eat properly, drink her milk, get her hair combed, etc etc), and the laundry will not be done properly and a lot more. Nothing will go smoothly as it is now. So it’s not easy say to let it be. That’s the truth, really.
As long my daughter’s things concern I dislike when my husband gives me “I told you so” look (after getting her books).  What I think making myself worry unnecessary, it’s something that’s been handed down to me as a legacy from my father. Yes, it’s in the genes. You can escape everything, but you cannot escape your genes – not a chance. My father is a perfectionist. Needless to say that still I can’t scattered my things when I visit my home during holidays. Otherwise my dad gives me a look “still you haven’t change”.  Well, when it comes to my dad he is the toughest person to convince for something. Last couple of days before as usual, me and my dad had a fight for convincing him to come over my place. I got impatience. And here comes the saver; my husband, picked the phone, called him and said “haven’t seen you many a days. Why don’t you and mom come here to stay with us?”. Surprisingly my father gave the nod !!
I agree sometimes I should leave things as it is. Hopefully I will learn let go of this as soon as possible.
 Well guys right now no more tensions or annoyance cause exams are going to over ( of course not mine , my daughter’s) festive season and holidays are here. It’s only 10 days left for the Durga Puja, by saying this; I think I expressed everything about how we Bengalis feel about Durga Puja, the biggest happening in our life. There is a saying in Bengali that “Bangaleer baro mashe (in 12 months) tero (thirteen) parbon (festival)”, which literally means that there are thirteen festivals in 12 months in a Bengali calendar. However, I don’t remember which 13 festivals referred too or we may have many more than that figure in a year…really why we need any special day for the festival! Jokes apart, whatever festivals we have in a year but a Bengali’s life revolves around Durga Puja which is full of the celebration, the joy and happiness, the famous ‘adda’, and of course how can a Bengali forget about the food!
When the sky color change from Blue to Red, when there is Kash ful in the field and the fragrance of Shiuli in the air, your wait is over – it is time to welcome ‘Ma Durga’
“Eseche sarat himer paras legeche hawar pare, sakal belay ghaser dagay shishirer choya lage” – Rabindra Nath Tagore.
“Autumn (Sarat) is here, just feel the cool breeze and presence of morning dews on the top of grass”.
All festivals bring people closer to each other, be it family, friends or community. Festivals provide the perfect opportunity to connect with all of them.  The festival of Durga Puja is celebrated as a coming together of the families. It’s also time to go back home for most of us, who stays outside. The wait for this year is about to end. So as Ma is arriving to her father’s home I am too off for Mumbai and on to Kolkata for celebrating festival with my family and loved ones. Hope you enjoy this festive season. Let us know about it too . Ending here.  
Happy Durgapuja and Navratri in advance!